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Easy Steps to Discover Your Purpose (And How I Found Mine)

By Hilde Larsen, Wake Up World

We all have a purpose, either we believe it or not. When we find it, or rather, when it finds US, magic happens. Like it did to me. Living a purposeful life doesn’t mean it is all dandy and a non-stop ride to fairyland. It simply means you find value and growth in your experiences, and you feel in sync and flow with life. It feels like freedom and home. The search is over, the drive and enthusiasm come natural towards your life.

Not living your purpose? If you have a corporate job that you are ok with, but it was never your dream, and your life feels dull and mediocre, you are not fulfilling your purpose.

What do you have to do to allow a purpose-driven life? To find it you have to let go of what you already believe, and why you are not living it. I remember an old story, told to me about Bruce Lee, where he was asked what he knew about martial arts. He held up two cups, both filled with water. He said; “The first cup represents what you know about martial arts, and the second cup represents what I know about martial arts.” Then he said; “If you want to fill your cup with my knowledge, you have to empty your cup of your knowledge.” This is such an amazing insight that takes us back to the basics of this book. No more bullshit. Not only untrue, or perceptions and programming need to go, but everything we ever believed. In order to fill our cup with the valuable lessons of life, and to find our true purpose, we need to empty our cup of what we already believe we know.

“Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I need to listen to my life to tell me who I am.” — Parker J. Palmer

Mark Manson talks about the do something principle, leading to the understanding that passion comes from action. “When you want something to change, change something”, is a commonly known motivational phrase. I use it all the time, it makes sense. Every change requires action, in one form or another. But, don’t we need inspiration, motivation and passion to take action? Isn`t there a need for inner motivation? If you need inspiration to take action and inspiration comes from action, then where do you start? It sounds like a catch 22, and it is. This is when you do something. By moving the energy, you move towards an outcome. By simply doing, you are creating a flow of new opportunities and understandings about yourself and your path. Finding your purpose is a search that requires you to be active and awake, honest and true. You cannot think your way to your purpose, you have to act your way to it.

Your purpose is what makes you tick. It is what triggers your bliss, your enthusiasm and your love for life. When you find it, you feel at home, valued and seen. But the thing is, it is deeper than that. You see the crap that has been holding you back and you call the bullshit and negative self-talk that might have been with you forever. We all have a purpose, or several, but it might not be what you expect. It can be very different from what you have been living your whole life. Believe me, I know.

“Here is the test to find whether your mission on earth is finished. If you’re alive, it isn’t.” — Richard Bach

So, if you are not living a life filled with passion and direction, enthusiasm and meaning, you are not living your purpose. If you are looking forward to vacations months ahead, believing that work is something you do for money only, you are way off target. When the weekends are looking like candy, while weekdays are simply dragging you along, you are not living it. You might like what you do, but there is no real passion and purpose. Do we all have to be so passionate you might ask? The short answer is yes. It is natural to be healthy, enthusiastic, happy, passionate and loving life. Most people are not, but that does not mean it is not our true mission. What makes us feel purposeful and full of life, is very different, yet the feeling is the same. It does not matter what it is, but there is something that will spark your inner fuse, and light that fire. If you never felt what I am describing, keep working towards it, as it is there. Some of us go through half our lives sleeping, not having a clue that there is a way to live that fuels you every single day. Many will live their whole lives without ever even thinking there is such a thing as a life purpose. The subconscious false beliefs, the clutter, drama, and stress, is a complete deal breaker. When we are fear-driven, ego-driven and power-driven, no purpose will show itself. It will try to, but our vision is too blurred to notice.

Purpose gives a sense of meaning — a sense of understanding a small part of what this magnificent creation is all about. When there is meaning, there is less confusion, frustration, fear and overall negativity. When we feel meaningful, we feel safer and more content. A hole has been filled and a thirst has been quenched. From being prisoners by our subconscious beliefs, our constant thinking, ego-based disconnected lives, we hunger for that deep meaning of life. The constant search for reason and fulfillment. The hunger is valid, as the lies and deceptions we have lived through have starved our soul from being able to fully express itself. Any lack of expression will harvest a sense of constipation, imprisonment, and unhappiness. We need to fully live our truth to be able to embrace all of life. It is not supposed to be complicated at all, quite the opposite. It is supposed to be life, living, creating and experiencing. Nothing we do, say, think or believe can mess up anything, really, but we can absolutely step up our game by owning our true purpose.

Follow the voice of your inner child:

Children are honest about their interests and passions. Until we hold them back by trying to make them all fit into the same box, they are proud of their every endeavor. Until we poor our insecurities and false beliefs over them, they express their true purpose. Willingly and freely they show us what makes them shine and blossom when we let them. As long as they feel safe, they will unfold their soul’s mission. Remember when you were a small child. What did you like to do? What made you happy, and what did you want to do when you grew up? Children will often follow in the footsteps of a parent, uncle or family member when they show honest interest in their profession. The learning has begun. They are open and teachable. Not that a child cannot have the same passion as a parent, but often the admiration of the adult as a role model will influence the motivation greatly.

Look back and observe how your life unfolded and changed. Did your interests shift suddenly? Did someone tell you something about what you liked to do that made you stop? Some loved to dance but stopped because of someone telling them they were too fat. Maybe you wanted to sing until your sister and her friends laughed at you. Most of those who have followed their dream, their passion and their longings have done so despite what others have said, not because of.

Your purpose can be multiple:

There is not a sign or a tablet in the heavens with your name on it, that has one single purpose named “jackpot.” You are not singled out for one particular task, and nothing else. I believe we have many potentials, and for some even multiple purposes at the same time. The search should never be for anyone single purpose, but rather for it, whatever it is. If you are good at several things, you are blessed, if you love to multitask and have a passion for a series of activities, you are blessed also. Never try to single out, and thereby discern anything that brings you joy and enthusiasm, and never override the language of the soul.

Be open to everything that gives you joy and inspiration. Embrace all of it. If you love to sing, sing more and louder, and if you love to ride your bike, ride more and longer. The rest will unfold as you follow the lead. You will notice that you are not the only one affected by your enthusiasm. When we touch upon others and lift them in any way, we are on the path of truth. Confirmed by our surroundings.

“As we cleanse our entire being from useless and disempowering nonsense, it becomes easier to hear what we have to say.” – Hilde Larsen

Lead from the heart:

Listen carefully to your life. It speaks to you through your emotions, your thoughts, and your feelings. We are never clueless, always guided by our inner compass. By staying in our brain, by thinking and analyzing with our mind, it gets harder to hear the answer. It comes from the heart. Although we need our brain to write down our lists, to remember and to resonate, the less we think, the closer we get to the truth. Your brain will try to play some tricks on you, to discourage you. The subconscious might have some unfinished business and remember some untrue beliefs. It is not trustworthy like the heart. Meditate every day to open your heart space and at the same time quiet the mind. Listening to the heart is the same as listening to the passion

Our heart will lead us to guide and help others, and I believe this is a part of any true purpose. People that have found their place in this world are often known as givers. They happily share what they know because they also know that assisting a fellow human is a part of the whole mission. Together we grow, and there is enough to go around. By reaching out to someone you are showing gratefulness and appreciation. That in itself will create more to be grateful for. We are not separated, only detached. By paying it forward you are stepping into the energy of pure intent, and nothing will be more fulfilling. Giving really is receiving.

Stepping outside the drama:

Be the observer. Step out of your own head, your everyday life, and take a critical look at what is going on. How are you spending your time? What pisses you off, and why. Who pushes your buttons, and why are you involved in any drama? Try to see a larger picture patterns and beliefs. Sometimes it can be a good thing to simply hit pause and step outside for a minute. Sit down, detach yourself and observe. Do it every day. Practice not getting emotionally involved in your day. Not alone, not around people. Life is not happening to you. You are creating it.

Give yourself the permission to search behind the scenes. Your purpose might not be far from where you are. Sometimes all that is needed is some decluttering and some reorganizing, and everything falls into place. Perhaps you are doing what you really love, but with the wrong people, or you need to redefine some or your boundaries. You might believe that what you already know to be your path is not sustainable. That is not something you can support yourself and your family doing. If that is the case, work on releasing those false beliefs, and look for those that have already done it. If you can`t find anyone, search for those who have done something similar, and be a pioneer. It takes dedication and work, so give yourself time to work yourself into the new and fulfilling path. If it was easy, everybody would do it. Easy is overrated and sometimes confused with effortlessness. No real effort is needed when you are in the flow of your heart and soul, but it might not be defined as easy.

Once you follow your truth, life becomes effortless.

Ask and it is given:

Find your journal and claim it for your life purpose. The most important book in your life, and about your life. Write down these headlines and do some freestyle writing. Don’t use your brain too much, but let the pen do the work. Write from your heart. There is no right or wrong. Nothing has to be politically correct or parent or spouse approved. Everything is allowed, sensor free. Step out of your thinking and let it flow freely and instantly. For each topic, write the first three sentences that come to you. Repeat every day for one whole week. Let your inner knowing come forth, as you force the subconscious mind to reveal the hidden truth. Let your heart and soul connection with your true self.

What are you good at? We are all good at something. You don’t have to see yourself as a master or an expert, yet, but find something that you know within your heart that you are good at.

Do you have a hobby? If you don’t have one now, you might have had one as a child or a young adult. Maybe you have had an interest that never amounted to any real hobby, but you still have a secret passion for the topic. Maybe even more than one.

What makes time stand still? Have you experienced losing yourself in something to the point where time vanished and nothing else mattered? When we are in our zone, we block out everything else, due to a deep focus and engagement.

How can you serve? How would you be able to help others? What do you have to offer that would benefit someone in need? Is there anything the world needs right now that you believe is important and interesting?

If you had all the money in the world, what would you do? If money was not an issue, what would you spend your time doing?

What would you do the last year of your life? This is a typical question and will, of course, reflect on the need to spend time with our loved ones, but some interesting things might come forth from asking yourself this.

What did you dream about doing as a child? Write down anything that comes to mind. Small, big, no limits.

Listen to your life, it is bigger than yourself. Listen to your dissatisfaction, and what others tell you about you. Your life has a purpose for others, why is that? Get to know yourself and listen closely.

Our purpose is to find our purpose, to live it and to share it with others.

Let it flow:

Here is another exercise for you to have fun with. Let your purpose come forth. Get your journal and set the alarm on 3 minutes. That is all you need. Sit comfortably and write nonstop. No thinking allowed. This is called intuitive writing. Write down everything you would do if you could start all over. If you go a whole new lease on life, from early childhood, what would it look like? What would you do, where would you be, and who would you be with. There are no limits here. Not about money, time, age, gender or family. Use your imagination freely. Nothing is too small and nothing is too extravagant or large. This is your dream world. Focus on you, on what you would do, what you would spend your time doing. Do this for ten executive days, then read and see what you find. Maybe every day you write something similar, and maybe there are some things that stay the same. Look for the common thread, you will find your clue.

I will not “work” another day in my life:

When I found my mission, my purpose, my whole life changed. I pursued a trait that reflected what I was good at, or one of the things I was good at. At least that is what I was told growing up. Without having one true passion, I believed that since I had the skill, it would have to be my path. My heart was never consulted. I had several interests and paths I could have chosen. I was a decent piano player, loved everything about music, and danced for years. I was also a gymnast but ended up as an Interior architect with great success. The success that contributed to stress and ill health. I worked hard, not passionately. I stepped up to my responsibilities, from being determined, well taught and proud, not because of my inner drive. I used my stubbornness, skills and, ability to persevere to succeed as we often see it. I was not a complete stranger to my passions, I just never followed them from my heart. I never prioritized my heart callings, they were always cluttered by my life´s teachings. When my life was turned upside down by illness and pain, it was very clear that what I was doing was not supporting my soul purpose. My whole life was not supporting my true mission.

From true purpose comes balance, not stress and disease. No sickness can live in an alkaline passionate and enthusiastic environment. Self-love and compassion will not allow it. My whole life fell apart, and from the ashes, I found my true path, and all the blessings that come with it. I was brutally awakened, through losing everything that I knew as my current life. My business and career, my health, my ability to move, my hobbies and my friends. I went through HELL to Inspired, and am now doing what I love, feeling more enthusiastic about life than ever before, and the last thing on my mind is a vacation. My job is my passion and my mission. It is my true calling. It fuels me, and it inspired me. Sure, there are days that takes a lot of effort and determination, and yes, every single day keeps me learning and growing. What it does not do is drain my energy.

I am true to myself, and therefore I take care of myself.

I do what I love, therefore I love what I do.

I follow my heart, as I know what following the mind will do.

It is a trap. Don´t fall for it.

Reach out, shoot me an EMAIL: hilde@inspiredbyhilde.com. I also offer Mindset Coaching.

You can read more on this topic in my third book No More Bullshit.


No More Bullshit: Power Up and Grow Free

The new book by Hilde Larsen…

Let’s cut the crap and get real. What in the world has taken us so long? Why is it that we keep on living as if nothing is wrong, when the whole world is upside down?

If you are searching for the good life, for abundance, health and happiness, this may be the book for you. In ‘No More Bullshit’, author and life coach Hilde Larsen takes you right back to the very beginning, giving you the tools you need to uncover the causes of the disconnects in your life, and revisit yourself and your life, bullshit free.

Are you ready to dig deeper into life and its meaning, and flush out everything within you that’s not worthy of taking your light and your essence? ‘No More Bullshit’ is designed to help you smoke it out, and set yourself free — to find the real you and live the life of abundance and joy you deserve.

‘No More Bullshit: Power Up and Grow Free’ is available here on Amazon.

Recommended articles by Hilde Larsen:

How to Write Your Life Manifesto, and Why It Will Change Your Life
Listen to All, Learn from a Few, Follow No One
10 Ways to Foster an Attitude of Gratitude
Why Is Our Society So Sick?
Spread Your Wings! 8 Benefits of Living Outside Your Comfort Zone
The Day I Died – The Dark Night of The Soul
4 Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Own Healing
Deal With Your Own Shit – Then Serve Others
The Truth Will Set You Free, But First It Will Piss You Off
The Art of Surrendering – How to Let Go of the Outcome – and Why

About the author:

Hilde Larsen, known as ‘the one who Inspires’, is the CEO and founder of inspiredbyhilde.com. She is a certified Health and Mindset Coach, an Author, a Keynote Speaker, Detox Specialist, Raw food Teacher and Life-Enthusiast. Her glowing enthusiasm for health and vitality has the leading role in her work. Her interest in healing and spiritual growth also led her to become a Reiki Healer. She is highly intuitive and has a strong connection to Mother Earth and the spiritual world.

Hilde Larsen writes articles, and has her own blog and YouTube channel. She is the author of three published books: ‘From HELL to Inspired’, ‘Know the Truth and Get Healthy’, and ‘No More Bullshit’. She creates online video programs and has her own membership site, The Inspired Members.

Born and raised in Stavanger, Norway, she and her husband of 29 years have a second home in Florida, USA. She is a proud mother and grandmother, and a tree-hugger at heart. Called by nature and spirit, she is inspiring many to take back their power, and to live a healthy successful life doing what they love. Hilde now spends her time traveling between Norway and Florida, speaking, and appearing on different media as the Inspired health and thought leader. She is an authority in her field who has walked her talk. She also values the time with her clients, and her time in nature with her closest family and friends.




By Nanice Ellis, Wake Up World

Believe it or not, you are here on Earth for the sole purpose of Radical Self-Expression. So, instead of following the crowd and suppressing your True Self, you should be following your dreams, and doing what you really want to do!

Of course, some people fear that if we all do what we want, the world will be in chaos, but, since the world’s already in chaos, and actually nearing the point of extinction, what do we have to lose? But, enough with the doom and gloom, here’s why radical self-expression will change the course of history, and why it’s crucial for you to participate…

Universal Mind

Both advanced quantum physics and ancient spiritual knowledge agree that we are all made from the same One Energy Source, and this source of energy not only has consciousness, it is consciousness. Indeed, there is One Universal Mind that orchestrates every aspect of life. From the most complex galaxies down to the simplest one cell organisms, no detail is left undone.

Therefore, by virtue of being alive, we are all inter-connected by Universal Mind, and through a direct connection, Universal Mind has the ability to guide our lives harmoniously.

Nonetheless, free will allows us to ignore higher guidance and make our own choices. However, if we’re not listening to Universal Mind, in all likelihood, we’re entranced by “Social Mind.”

Unlike the omnipotent power of Universal Mind, “Social Mind” is built on a complex, yet fragile, grid of illusions. Made up of dogma, tradition, religion, culture, media, social standards, and a dynamic web of convoluted systems, the false power of “Social Mind” is fueled and sustained by everyone who participates. Indeed, every problem known to humankind, from poverty to violence, can be traced back to “Social Mind.”

Social Mind Radio

While living in a hypnotic trance, induced by “Social Mind,” most of us have been brainwashed into submission without even knowing it. Once entranced, it’s difficult not to follow societal norms, and, consequently, it becomes natural to repress self-expression in lieu of external rewards, and, as a result, most of our choices revolve around fitting in, being accepted, acquiring financial gains, improving worth, and avoiding fear and judgment.

Because the disempowering dynamics of “Social Mind” are based on competition, scarcity, and survival of the fittest, individual behaviors are all too often self-serving and not in support of the collective. Therefore, rather than expressing free-will, we mindlessly compete for material success, status, and power, and, as obsessive compulsive behaviors dictate self-sabotaging choices, a pandemic of greed spreads “social disease” worldwide. Consequently, there are no winners in a finite game of survival.

So, instead of tuning into the smooth vibes of Universal Mind, humanity’s “radio receivers” have been tuned to Chaos 101.9 – “Social Mind Radio.”

Needless to say, as long as we stay tuned, “Social Mind Radio” will keep playing the same old doom and gloom, and as long as we believe what we’re perceiving, we perpetuate pain and suffering – both on a personal and global scale. Therefore, instead of trying to eradicate the era of doom and gloom, let’s just change the station!

Fortunately, without humanity’s participation, “Social Mind” is unsustainable. Therefore, as humanity awakens from a deep spell of disempowerment, the structures created and sustained by “Social Mind” begin to crumble – making humanity ripe and ready for a New Dream that is based on planetary harmony and abundance for all.

Orchestrated by Universal Mind, the New Dream is broadcast through “Universal Mind Radio,” and since there are billions of potential receivers, if enough of us tune in and follow guidance accordingly, we will inevitably come into harmonic resonance.

The World is a Puzzle

Imagine the New Dream represented by a giant puzzle consisting of more than 7 billion pieces. Each representing one piece of the global puzzle, every human being has a specific role to play. However, knowing that many people would not fulfill their piece of the puzzle, many were given similar roles. Luckily, not everyone needs to do their part, and when a certain threshold is met, the New Dream will manifest for all to experience.

Since the threshold is yet to be met, your participation is greatly needed!

In order to participate, you must courageously free yourself from the dynamics of “Social Mind” and this means waking up from “social trance” and thinking for yourself. At first, others might judge you for breaking social tradition and standards, and you might even be considered “rogue.” However, by becoming an independent thinker, you will reconnect with Universal Mind.

Therefore, your mission, if you shall accept it, is to be you!

Mission Possible!

Your mission is fulfilled by fearlessly being who you really are, and, therefore, Radical Self-Expression is the key to success! So, what is Radical Self Expression?

Radical Self-Expression naturally unfolds as you “follow your dreams!” Your unique dreams inspire you to be who you want to be, do what you want to do, love who you want to love, and live the life you want to live. You see, quite brilliantly, the blueprint to complete your specific piece of the global puzzle is stored within your dreams, and by following your dreams and being your Real Self, your mission is seamlessly fulfilled.

Indoctrinated into a world where people mindlessly support themselves through work they don’t love, maybe your dreams were discouraged and even defined as a luxury you can’t afford. However, rather than being a luxury, following your dreams is now a necessity for world transformation, and, therefore, the one thing you can no longer avoid. Hence, this also means that self-expression is not selfish as once believed, but, rather, your mission on Earth.

Following your dreams is not a luxury, but, rather, a necessity for world transformation!

Love is the Guiding Force!

To ensure that you would follow your dreams, your dreams were programmed with love, or, rather, you were programmed with love for your dreams. Think about it; have you ever considered why you love to experience specific things and not others? Well, none of it is random. In fact, the love you have for certain things is both intentional and purposeful so that you will naturally gravitate toward your pre-chosen path.

Keep in mind that a dream can be anything you love to do, be or experience, and, therefore, you don’t have to invent a life changing thingamajig or solve the world’s environmental crisis. Big or small, the dreams you have for life are the dreams you volunteered to fulfill before you were even born, and the same dreams Universal Mind has for you.

Just as the love of a dream or desire gets your attention, love also inspires continued participation while providing energy for expression. Along the way, you may receive monetary gains, material incentives, recognition, and even special awards, yet, beyond all that, rest assured, love is the ultimate reward – and it was designed this way. By following your dreams, and doing what you love to do, not only do you fulfill your piece of the puzzle, you also align with your Best Possible Destiny.

No Time Like the Present!

In many cases, dreams don’t come with foresight, and the only thing we have “to go on” is the love and desire to do something, be someone, or go somewhere. In fact, the details of a dream may be vague until we consciously commit and take action, and, even then, we might only receive guidance as needed. Since it can be scary to take action without knowing the full plan, it’s common to wait for clarity, but, if clarity doesn’t come until you move forward, you could wait forever.

Therefore, if you want to fulfill your part in Humanity’s New Dream, you must act on inspiration, but, rather than a huge leap of faith, small yet consistent steps can make a substantial difference.

Radical Self Expression Can Save the World! (It’s the #1 Reason to Follow Your Dreams!)

So, instead of billions of fearful people following the diseased “Social Mind” into oblivion, imagine a billion people waking up, and through the guidance of Universal Mind, transforming the world! No doubt, when enough of us follow our dreams, and aren’t afraid of Radical Self-Expression, we will complete the global puzzle, and as the New Dream manifests on Earth, life as we know it, will never be the same again!

Since there’s no better time for Radical Self-Expression, wake-up and do what you love to do!

With love, grace & gratitude,

Free 7 Part Spiritual Awakening Series with Nanice

No matter where you are on your path, this intensive series will support your journey to awakening.

Sign up now at nanice.com/awaken.

Is There a White Elephant In Your Way? The Guidebook for Awakening and Self-Empowerment!

The new book by Nanice Ellis!

nanice-ellis-is-there-a-white-elephant-in-your-way-guidebook-awakening-self-empowermentWhether you are looking to reclaim your life, improve relationships, attract more abundance or you are ready to wake-up, “Is There a White Elephant in Your Way?” provides the revolutionary answers you have been seeking.

Your life is a Divine Gift, waiting to be lived fully! As this unique guidebook shows you exactly how to overcome the ego and live as your True Empowered Self, you will learn how to recognize and understand the unconscious dynamics that have run your life, and step by step, you will be able to overcome your own inner blocks and outer issues, so that, one day soon, life overflows with joy and fulfillment!

So… Is there a White Elephant in your way?

The answer is yes, if you ever…

Experience irrational fear or incessant worry
Sabotage your big dreams or undermine your dearest desires
Battle reoccurring issues in relationships, career, health or financial matters
Feel like you are not yourself but don’t know why
Get inspired but lack the motivation to follow through
Believe that your greatest potential is out of reach
Lack the energy to live your life the way you want to live it
Worry about what other people think (especially about you)
Beat yourself up with criticism but can’t seem to stop
Play small or hide your gifts despite the compelling drive to live your life to the fullest
Discover the hidden key to unlocking your greatest potential and the real secret to being limitless!

“Is There a White Elephant in Your Way?” is available here in Kindle and Paperback editions.

Recommended articles by Nanice Ellis:

Overcoming Negative Thinking – The #1 Cause of Chronic Depression
How To Help Others Spiritually Awaken
Are Higher Vibrations Making You Sick? Integrating the Energetic Shift
How to Heal Emotional Trauma
The 5 Stages of Awakening – Signposts and Pitfalls on the Path of Consciousness
Are You More Awake Than Your Family? 12 Ways to Heal Relationships When Your Family Is Still Asleep
Why You Should Forgive Your Parents… and How To Do It!
The Radical Parents’ Guide to Raising Teens: Sex, Drugs and Teens – Why Just Saying “No” Doesn’t Work
About the author:

Nanice EllisNanice Ellis has been a professional Life Coach for 20 years, successfully coaching women and men from all over the world. She is also an author, Theta Healer and Master Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.

Helping people to make quantum jumps in their lives, Nanice’s very unique coaching style is often referred to as the “Nanice Effect”. By using powerful and proven manifestation techniques, Nanice coaches people to tap into the power of the Universe and live their dreams, bridging the gap from the imagination to the realization of that dream. She works with leaders, coaches, healers and anyone who wants to live life to the fullest. You can learn more about the coaching programs offered at: Coaching Programs with Nanice.

Nanice is the author of several books, including the inspirational “The Infinite Power of You!” and “Even Gandhi Got Hungry and Buddha Got Mad!”, and her latest book, “Is There a White Elephant in Your Way? The Guidebook for Awakening and Self Empowerment” She is also the host of radio show Chai with Nanice. Her books are available at Nanice.com/6/Books and right here on Amazon.

To connect with Nanice, visit Nanice.com.

Images of Unworthiness


Dear friends, I am Jeshua. I come to remind you of who you are, your strength and your greatness. You are an inexhaustible source of Light that continually refreshes, that grows and expands; an exuberant flow of divine energy. I want to infuse you with this energy and I ask that you allow this energy to flow fully into your mind, your body, your entire life, so that your soul’s energy can express itself here on Earth.

I appeal to you to let go of old and false images of unworthiness. I want to speak to you today about self-esteem and self-empowerment; about daring to stand up and believe in the fire that you carry inside. This fire is your Light; it wants to burn brightly here and now. But each of you has taken in so much false information about who you are and who you should be, that there has been a weakening of your spiritual power and your originality, your uniqueness. At this time in the evolution of humanity, new spiritual forces are being liberated, and that can only happen completely and truly through the people who are now living on Earth. A new time and energy is being born through you and that can only arise in a deeply rooted way if you completely embrace your own worth.

Men and women both have been mislead by society through its traditions and educational processes, so that images of sin, shame, and guilt continue to cling to and live within you all. Life is portrayed as a struggle to prove yourself and a fight to survive. In this tradition, a very limited form of male energy is being posited as being necessary in life, and that position rests essentially on an unstable foundation of fear and the need for control. This form of male energy has for centuries also dominated spirituality. Christian spirituality has become male dominated through the Church, and has thus lost connection with its origin. You are here to restore the Christ energy with its origin; to restore the living heart of it within yourself and to bring that forth and pass it on to others.

I recognize you as my brothers and sisters. You are so dear to me and what saddens me most is to see how you belittle and disparage yourself; how dejected you feel about who you are. Images of sin, shame, and guilt deceive you all. Let us look at how those images play a role in the life of both men and women. In men, these images are impressed into them during their early boyhood education by the emphasis that is placed on performance and competition, and on standing out from others; on being able to stand your ground and being tough and showing your masculinity. Sensitivity and feminine qualities, such as being able to connect and empathize with others, are rejected as being unmanly, as characteristics not belonging to a man. In women, the emphasis is put on not distinguishing oneself, but rather on empathy with others and being prepared to serve others; the caring, giving quality is emphasized.

These two role models are still affecting the male and the female psyche and they present false images. A woman is supposed to find her real value in the giving of herself and in her empathy and caring for others. She thereby loses her own strength and the ability to stand tall, and to take a stance and clearly position herself in the world. But it is only on the basis of a woman claiming her autonomy, her freedom and independence in the world, that the female energy can flow with its true power. If that foundation of autonomy is missing, women become weakened and they do not assume the position and power in the world that should belong to them. The traditional role model for women veils their sharp mind and adventurousness.

In men, it is in a sense the other way around; in the course of their upbringing they are often shielded from their hearts, their sensitivity, and their need to be caring, to love, and to protect. They must distinguish themselves and are forced into an inevitable loneliness, isolation, and the feeling of being lost, which sets them apart from the whole. Sometimes they truly lose their sensitivity and do not dare to give themselves over to the flow of emotions, feelings, and love that is also certainly present in their hearts.

There is a desire in the male soul to also embody the female nature, which is already an intrinsic part of their soul, but men tend to project this desire outside themselves onto women. Women, too, tend to project their desire for power and discernment onto men. But if both sexes cannot find these qualities within themselves, there emerges a painful relationship between men and women. They feel a need for one another, but at the same time there is conflict, because dependency is never a good basis for a truly loving relationship. Both sexes need to make an inner connection with their own male and female powers. These energies belong together; they are like a helix that is entwined around itself. Only together can they grow and flourish.

What happens to the self-esteem of men and women when they have to live up to what are actually such one-dimensional stereotypes of masculinity and femininity? The man often develops a persona or false ego that he must present to the world, because he feels he must prove himself; he must perform and be a man of action. The woman also develops a persona, because she must be charming, nice, helpful, and giving. When both sexes try to show the other side of themselves, there usually arise feelings of guilt, shame, of not being good enough, or their opposite: of being self-important or arrogant. Look, for example, at the hatred in your history as a reaction to homosexuality. Men who explicitly put forward their feminine side and showed pleasure in doing that, were considered the epitome of depravity. Limits had been exceeded that were supposed to remain intact. And why was this so? Apparently it was necessary to place men and women in tight boxes in order to suppress their true spiritual power and unique strength, because these stereotypes have all been acted out against a backdrop of the energy of dominance and power.

You all have had to deal with this suppressive energy, sometimes as victim and sometimes as perpetrator, so you may wonder why this attitude developed. You can look at the situation this way: the creative adventure on Earth, the entire cycle of lives and ever more lives, is a huge process of growth. It is a long journey in which you have experienced the extremes of what you might call “duality” in the world of form: light and dark, connectedness and separateness, male and female. You have traveled far from Home, and this is not without meaning. This experience has great worth and brings forth a deep richness in every soul who participates. But it also means that you have descended into the realms of fear, desolation, and oblivion of your true self. I am here to remind you of who you arein this descent into darkness and of your experience of both sides of the energies of power and dominance: victim and perpetrator.

Now is a moment in the cycle of life on Earth when it is time to return to a greater equilibrium, to more balance, so I call upon you to remember who you are. You came from a source of inexhaustible Light; a Light that is peaceful, yet flows and is dynamic, and which experiences and explores. There was no omniscient god, no dominant ruler who determined your life, but a completely free flow of Light that reveals itself both in the male and the female energies, and in different forms that all fit together so beautifully. Feel again the original bond between energies, the dance of the feminine and the masculine.

The female power is about connection and unification; it brings energies together. The female energy opens outward from the heart and receives with love and tender gentleness. In a certain way, the female energy carries the universe. It is the source of connectedness, of Oneness. Feel the power of this energy. She is present in all the diversity that you see around you: the people, the animals, the plants. Through everything flows the One: the mother, the goddess, the connecting and unifying energy.

The male power is about distinction and is creative in a different way; it creates individuals. In your soul you are connected, one with the other, and yet as an individual being you are also distinct, different, unique – one of a kind. Throughout the entire great universe there is nothing and nobody that is exactly like you. What a miracle! Can you, in addition to experiencing yourself within the One, the source from which you came, also allow yourself to be “otherness”, the completely unique magic of being you? Feel it, even though you cannot express it in words – it is the “you” within you. This is the creative power of the male energy.

The greatest joy in creation is when the One meets itself through the Other. If you are living in a male body you can marvel at a woman, her appearance, her beauty, the access she has to certain energies, the unifying forces in her. As a woman, you can marvel at and enjoy a man: his body, his strength, the protectiveness that can emanate out from him. The play between male and female becomes a joy and a source of creativity when both sexes naturally embrace their own strength and worth. Both are part of the one Light, eternally connected with one another. Yet, at the same time, there is that difference that makes everything exciting and adventurous; a voyage of discovery filled with potential experiences that deepen and enrich you. That is the promise of the play between the male and the female.

Today we are speaking in particular about the male energy, and I want to say something more about that. In the traditional spiritual way of thinking, it is often the case that the ego is portrayed as something that is bad and needs to be transcended. Certainly in the past, the ascending upward into the heavenly was seen as the ideal of true spirituality. But what is true spirituality? It is not just the connection, the communion, the unity that are central to spirituality, but also the ability to distinguish your unique powers of being an “I”. Allowing your unique powers to flow and thrive is equally as important as connecting, and this gives an earthly, manifesting form to the Light of your soul. It is specifically for this distinctive strength that you have need of an ego. But by this, I do not mean the ego as it has been represented in the masculine tradition. Not a tough and hardened ego that wants to distinguish itself at the expense of everyone and everything, that wants to amass power, that wants to rule over others, or over life. This view itself is a false image of what the ego is. In its true form, the ego is a focal point, a prism, for your essential I-ness, your unique power. It needs to be there and is a very special and irreplaceable part of creation, like a puzzle piece that makes you part of the larger whole.

Embrace that power! Say “yes” to it. Respond with joy to who you are; you are irreplaceable. And when you stand up in your true strength, you need not transcend your ego, your personality, and leave it behind; you need not deny anything in yourself. On the contrary, you become who you truly are. The Light of your soul descends fully into all your cells, your body, your entire humanness. Everything that belongs to you is illumined by that Light. Then you say “yes” to yourself – your entire humanness is allowed to be – and your unique self flows into everything you are and do. You do not need to hide your humanness; you do not need to be ashamed of it.

Imagine how the Light shines forth from its source through you. Allow the Light to flow downward by way of your crown chakra and then throughout your entire being. It is a white and universal Light, loving and gentle. It flows through all life and also through you. By way of you, the Light acquires a unique radiance, a special tone, a different sound. Look within for a moment and maybe you can see certain colors, hear certain tones, or just get a particular feeling; then feel deep inside yourself: “This is me; this is the mystery of me”. You are here to receive this mystery and no one else can do that, only you. Let it flow throughout your body, through your abdomen, legs, and feet. This is the integration, the fusion, of the male and the female within yourself.

Feel welcome on Earth and enjoy who you are. Do not be ashamed and do not feel guilty. Let go of old images of sinfulness. No one is served by them, not you and not the world. Let the fire burn and let the Light radiate! That is my deepest desire; and my deepest wish is for you to stand up in your own strength, on your own two feet. Let the seed of the Christ energy flower within yourself and be not dependent on someone else. I greet you all, in equality and in deep joy.


Translation by Maria Baes and Frank Tehan

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